It’s come around once again.  April 9th. It’s not Good Friday this year like it was 11 years ago (that was last week and brought up memories early) but the weather is similar, a little chilly and not overly sunny.

April 9th was the day my husband died and, as this day always does, it brings back memories, both sad and bittersweet.  Because we’d past the point a while before, that point when the doctors start talking in days, maybe a week or so, not years or even months, we knew this was one battle he wasn’t going to walk away from.  And even though it gave us an opportunity to say good-bye, how does one ever say everything one wants to say?  How does one ever wrap up everything one wants to say about 34 years together – and the future we had hoped to share?

Unlike many people I did have the opportunity of saying many things that had gone unsaid, although many were a sort of unspoken knowledge we shared though never verbalized (we were after all both introverts). Even still there are things I wished I had time to share with him, things to talk about while there was still time.

And this makes me wonder how many people leave things unsaid, put off seeing a friend, skip taking time to give someone a hand or decide to do something for themselves ‘later’, when they ‘have more time’?

You see what I know for sure is that we never know what’s going to happen in the future, whether it be next year, next month or next day – even next minute.   And that makes the present very precious, every minute is valuable because we don’t know how many more we have.

I see people rushing about and texting on their smartphones – but wonder when the last time was that they had a real conversation?  Have they told their loved ones that they do love them – or just assumed they’d know?

And I’ve seen so many people carry grudges around for so long about something someone said – or didn’t say – that they’ve forgotten what it was that upset them in the first place!

So given how mercurial life can be, isn’t it time to figure out what’s really important, then take action on those items, activities and relationships?  You may not get another chance.

The following poem captures far better than I can what I’m trying to say.  It’s been around for many years, with several different titles and in several variations and while I believe in always giving credit where credit is due I have been unable to verify beyond a shadow of a doubt who the original author is.  Therefore I’m referencing the two names that seem to be the most likely contenders, Jennifer Salomone (no date found) and Norma Cornett Marek (1989).

 

 

If Tomorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time
that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would tape each word and action,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute or two
to stop and say “I love you,”
instead of assuming, you would know I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well I’m sure you’ll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there’s always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything right.

There will always be another day
to say our “I love you’s”,
And certainly there’s another chance
to say our “Anything I can do’s?”

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you’re waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you’ll surely regret the day,
That you didn’t take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you’ll always hold them dear,

Take time to say “I’m sorry,”
“please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”.
And if tomorrow never comes,
you’ll have no regrets about today.

❧ ❦ ❧

So, what are you leaving till later, till you have more time?

Why not do it today? After all, you never know what tomorrow will bring.

So, until the next time, THRIVE on!

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Karen Switzer-Howse

Canada’s Premier ThriveSynergy Strategist

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