Who you are:
You’re a hard-working, fun-loving, dedicated professional in the science, technology, engineering or math sectors who has reached the mid-stage of your career. You’re smart, highly motivated and results oriented. You bring a lot of skills to the job and have a knack of seeing important connections often missed by others. Your sense of humour and ability to bring people together and get results is highly regarded. But you also value your life outside of work highly. Basically you want it all. You want a rewarding career but you don’t want those people important to you to suffer because of your drive and commitment to your work. While your need to make a positive contribution to the world has not diminished and you still want the recognition and reward of a job well done you realize that isn’t really enough for you – you want to live your life fully – thriving and happy in all areas. For you it’s not an either/or question of your career or a life outside of work, you really do want it all! Yet in spite of the fact that you’ve always been a high-energy optimistic person the many demands on your time and the growing conflicts between work and the rest of your life are beginning to wear you down and eat away at your confidence..
What your issues tend to be:
You truly care about your work and know you have the ability to make a major contribution, but you are starting to doubt the costs of burning the candle at both ends. Plus the constant need to prove yourself is eating away at your confidence so that you tend to hold back more and more, not commenting or volunteering ideas in meetings for fear they’ll be thought silly or worse. You also worry that your family commitments might be seen as a lack of commitment to your job, even though you know there are times your family has taken a back seat to your career. And the guilt you feel when you have to put your family second gnaws away at you late at night as you try to go to sleep. Yet those times when you did put your personal life ahead of work also make you feel guilty – it seems you can’t win. You don’t know what to do and you’re afraid to ask for help as it might be seen as a sign of weakness or lack of ability. And you know that the ongoing competing commitments to work, family and friends often leaves you feeling overwhelmed while the stress of trying to meet everybody’s expectations leaves you feeling drained by the end of the day. If only you could say “no”, but you feel guilty if you don’t step in. However the potential fall-out of your decisions is tearing you apart and you often find yourself up late at night worrying about whether your decisions are harming those people important to you. What if your choices are making you a bad wife(husband)/mother(father)/daughter(son)/friend/colleague? The guilt you feel, no matter what choices you make, has become a growing burden on your heart. You’ve reached the point where you no longer trust your ability to make good decisions and you’re afraid of failing both at work and at home. Yet you still want it all, a rewarding career and a fulfilling and happy personal life – just without burning out, going insane or destroying your family.
What you need most right now:
What you need most right now is the peace of mind that comes from knowing your desire to “have it all” is neither selfish nor unattainable and that having a step by step plan to pull everything together in a meaningful way will make it all doable. You need to regain your perspective, get really clear on what is truly important to you and what you want your future to look like, so you have a clear values based foundation on which to make your future decisions and help you deal with the competing commitments in your life and the guilt that you’ve been living with for so long. Once you know where and how you want to move forward you’ll be able to map out a plan that can take you there, including identifying what you want more of in your life and what you’d like to eliminate. It’s also important to recognize and own your unique strengths, skills, abilities and achievements so you have the confidence to reach your goals quicker, making the best use of your time and optimizing your results while reducing the stress of trying to meet unrealistic expectations and be all things to all people. When you know what you value, what’s most important and understand how you can best use your unique combination of knowledge, skills and abilities to get what you want, making decisions will become so much simpler. You can then create the specific actions you need to take to get you there. By using your increased clarity around what ‘having it all’ means to you, focusing on the steps in your plan and being accountable for implementing them you’ll be able to move out of overwhelm, make better decisions, bolster your confidence with each new success and eliminate your guilt over your choices thereby greatly reducing your stress. You’ll be more relaxed and feel more in charge of your future, the future you want, not controlled by the unrealistic expectations or demands of others and at the end of the day you’ll be happier, and so will your family, friends and colleagues. You’ll have the piece of mind that comes from knowing that you really can ‘have it all’, living your life fully, thriving in all areas and leading a happy, productive fulfilling life, without guilt or regrets.
It was exactly to achieve these sorts of results that I pulled together everything I had experienced and learned to create the “T.H.R.I.V.E.Synergy for Authentic Fulfilling and Happy Success Program™” for people just like you.
Each of the 7 steps has been designed to help you eliminate specific challenges and focus on what you can do to leverage your own knowledge, skills and abilities to achieve the life you truly want.
If you’re ready to lift the veil on what’s been slowing you down and holding you back, let’s connect and see what I can do to help you have it all – and thrive. Just choose a time that’s convenient for you using my online scheduler.